Do you know, unless you overcome disappointments your life will wither away?

Too much expectations about your life, lead to too much disappointments about the way it is shaping up. You are emotionally shattered when most of your expectations meet with utter disappointment.

Nothing happens as you dreamed of. And when things do not go as you expected, it makes you wallow in self-pity that you were born unlucky.

You are wrong in feeling so.

There is no one single human being in the whole world, who has not faced some sort of a disappointment in his life.

My disappointments

I too have faced lot of disappointments in my life. And the continuous disappointments I met in my life, made me feel that I was the unluckiest person in the whole world.

When I lost my husband, I was utterly disappointed that God did not have the mind to help me. When I sold my house to settle my huge debts, I was disappointed that I lost many loving memories along with it.

When I was deep in debts, I felt disappointed that I had been a fool to have mishandled my money dealings. And my disappointments, made my mind negative and gloomy. I would persistently sink into an abyss of unhappiness.

It was with experience, that I learnt that disappointments were a part and parcel of everyone’s life. I realized rather late in my life, that I should move ahead, however disappointed I might feel about what was happening to me.

This is what life is all about – Thrusting aside your disappointments to forge ahead in your life.

Yes!

Unless you overcome disappointments, you will never feel happy in your life. And if you allow your disappointments to overwhelm you, you cannot have a moment of peace in your life.

What are the aspects in your life you feel disappointed about?

Sadly, there is not a single aspect of your life about which you are not disappointed. This is the harsh truth of life. The truth, is you are disappointed about many facets of your life.

• You face disappointments in your work.
• You are disappointed with your marriage.
• You are utterly disappointed when the people you love, do not show reciprocal care.
• You are disappointed with your friends\colleagues\relatives.
• You are disappointed, when your children do not fulfill the dreams you have about them.

Here are simple ways to overcome disappointments

1. Forgo expectations.

Do you know expectations are the breeding ground for disappointments?

You are disappointed about your profession. You are disappointed about your children. You are disappointed about your marriage.

You are unable to cope up with disappointments in your marriage, because of your expectations.

You build an idealistic image of your spouse before your marriage. And you assume, that your spouse would be forever loving, and forever caring towards you..

You have that much of dreams about your spouse, that you do not realize that he\she will never be the super human being, you imagine him\her to be.

You should be grounded enough to realize, that your spouse is very human and very prone to faults.

So, you should stop having rosy dreams about your spouse. Unless you accept your spouse for what he\she is, you cannot overcome disappointments in your marriage.

You face disappointments in every nook and corner of your profession. You expect a promotion, but often you do not get it. And when you do not get your expected promotion, you are utterly disappointed.

And many a time you are disappointed by the attitude of your management towards you. You do your work with hundred percent dedication and perfection. You are smug that you will be appreciated for your work by the administration.

But to your utter disappointment, all you get from the management is a tongue lashing about the lack of perfection in your work.

You have too much expectations about your children’s future. And you build an imaginary future for your children, with your own your whims and wishes as its foundation. You do not understand, that your wishes and desires need not be that of your children also.

You are unable to cope up with your disappointment, when your children decide their life according to their dreams.

You are feeling disappointed for no valid reasons.

Be practical enough to understand, that no one will behave according to your imagination.

Your spouse is an individual with his\her own idealogies and dreams. So, accept your spouse, for what he\she is.

Your children have their very own dreams and aspirations. It is their right. You cannot thrust your dreams on your children. So, step back from your children, to let decide their own life. They love you for your understanding.

Your brief failure in your work, is not the finality of your professional success. When you keep trying, you will definitely reach the pinnacle of success you always dream of.

2. Forgo unrealistic dreams

“Reality is the name we give to our disappointments”-Mason Cooley

Most of you build castles in the air. You assume your success will be handed over in a platter to you. You assume, you will enjoy a problem free life. You are smug, that there will be no relationship issues with your spouse.

But none of your dreams materialize.

In reality, you are forced to struggle, even for your mediocre success. You face innumerable relationship issues with your spouse.

You are in fact surrounded by problems in your life, that many a time you yearn for some sort of a reprieve.

So, do not be become disappointed when you face problems. Disppointments are the reality of life. Life without disappointments, does not exist for anyone.

Understand that you have to live amidst your problems.

Realize that success is never easy. It is a long struggle, which might extend for years, before you achieve it.

So, overcome disappointments, by accepting it as the reality of life.

3. Move ahead in life

If you remain stagnant by feeling overwhelmed by your disappointments, you might lose your life. Your time keeps ticking away, while you waste your life by being disappointed for even the tiniest of your problems.

When you face disappointments, you might feel cowed down. It is a natural feeling. But to stay disappointed and refusing to move ahead in your life, is a criminal waste.

So, shove aside the negative feelings your disappointments bring in you.

Overcome disappointments, by brushing it aside, Do the things that will keep you afloat in this harsh world.

4. Do not brood about what happened in your life

You often feel disappointed, with the way you have lived your life so far. You are agonized, by the opportunities you have missed. Instead of overcoming your disappointment, you brood that you could have done better in your life.

This is a complete negative attitude, which is not going to help you in anyway.

Divert your mind from the disappointments you consistently face in your life. Talk to someone who has a positive mentality, and who cares for you.

Keep your body fit and energetic. If you are physically weak, it might reflect on your mind.

Listen to good music. It rejuvenates you. Taking long walks can also ease your mind.

You should understand is that your life will not be what you want it to be. Rather, you should accept your life for what it is.

5. Understand that everyone is in the same boat

You often feel, that only you face disappointments in life. You feel that everyone is getting whatever they crave for in their life.

If you take a survey, you will see that not a single person exists in this world, who has not experienced some sort of a disappointment in their life.

There are millions, who do not get the promotion they crave for.

There are millions, who suffer from failures in all spheres of their life.

There are millions, whose dreams are dashed and crushed.

There are millions, who face disappointment after disappointment in their life.

So, understand that disappointments do not define your life. Realize, that disappointments are part and parcel of everyone’s life and you are no exception.

Conclusion

‘One’s best success comes after their greatest disappointment’ -Henry Ward Beecher.

Unless you overcome disappointments, it will have severe repercussions in your life. You can get over your disappointments, only if you are willing to overcome it.

You should understand that disappointments are just a passing phase in your life. It is not a permanent fixture in your life.

So, take your disappointments lightly. Do feel frustrated about it. Do not brood and torture yourself, that you are born unlucky.

Yes!

Disappointments can be handled with guts, if you make up your mind not to be fazed by the temporary pitfalls in your life.