Do you know fear of people is the biggest hurdle to your success?

Yes!

You must mingle with people if you want success in your life. Otherwise, you will be ignored by this highly competitive society.

But, mostly you hate mingling with people, as you are not confident about yourself. You are so browbeaten by the presence of strangers that you literally freeze in fear before them.

It is strange that you fear people who are just like you and me. If you analyze yourself, you do not fear people. You actually fear their reactions towards you. You also feel puny before the incredible power of famous people.

Do you know that famous people have more fears than you do?

Are you surprised?

Don’t be.

You have nothing to lose in your life. But, famous people have everything to lose. When they are at the peak of their success, they cannot afford to lose their pedestal.

They have to be on a red alert to sustain their high ranking as someone might easily overtake them to the top position. Their climb down from fame is the hardest part of their life. It literally shatters them to pieces.

Can you now see that famous people too have their share of fears?

They too are as human as you are.

So, never overestimate them. And never ever underestimate yourself.

Do not put other people in a pedestal just because they are famous and wealthy.

Do you fear talking to your friends?

You do not.

Why?

It is because you treat them as your equal. This is the reason you like being with your friends.

You should have the same mentality when dealing with strangers also.

Do you know the top reasons for your fear of people?

1. You fear their success.
2. You fear that they will ignore you when you approach them.
3. You fear that they will insult you.
4. You fear you will be rejected.
5. You are in awe of their elevated position in life.

So, you are in actual fact you fear how people will react to you.

What happens when you fear people?

You shut yourself into your miserable world of aloofness and loneliness. You refuse to meet people.

A fatal mistake you can ever make in your life.

Unless you interact with people, you can never hope for success. Fear of meeting people just signals that you are not confident about yourself.

Putting other people in a pedestal and placing yourself at its rock bottom is a big no.

Do a simple analysis about yourself.

What do you do when you enter a room of people you do not know?

Do you walk in confidently?

Excellent!

This is the way you should behave.

Or,

Do you fumble with awkwardness?

You are showing your fear of people openly and implicitly.

Are you very self-conscious that everyone is watching you critically?

Yet another sign of your fear. You are falsely assuming that people are ever judging you. You are wrong in thinking so. Everyone has their own work to do. No one has time to observe and ridicule you.

Have you seen sales representatives?

Their work is to meet people. They never know the reaction of people they are going to meet. But they cannot delay their job of meeting them. Unless they meet people, they cannot show their productivity.

Unless they are productive and persuasive, they would be thrown out of their work. So, the initial days of a salesman is very apprehensive and hesitant.

How a salesperson  overcame his fear of people?

“When I was ushered before the boss of a famous company I became speechless. It was my first experience, you know. So, naturally I was rather awkward and stuttering.” a salesman told me.

“As it was my first stint as a salesman I had butterflies in my stomach. I rehearsed thousand times about how I should enter the room and how I should talk to the boss,” he laughed.

“The opulence of the room and the aura of the powerful boss made me jittery. I felt I could not make a sale,” the salesman continued.

“My mind literally froze into inaction. Initially I fumbled and blabbered. I could not talk cohesively. But, I knew that my livelihood depended on my sales pitch” I was now listening to the salesman very eagerly.

“I was pleasantly surprised to see the boss keenly listening to what I was saying. I instantly realized that the boss was interested in the product I was promoting. It gave me great momentum. He was also very easy to communicate. I did my first business with him. And that too very much higher than I expected” he added gleefully.

“My first sales was a revelation to me. Initially I had all sorts of fear about meeting people and making a sale. But now I have realized that everyone are as human as we are. I have never looked back since.” I knew the sales man was highly successful.

His persistence made him overcome fear of meeting the topmost higher officials in any big company. He is now a persuasive smooth talker and a master in the art of calculated selling.

All because he overcame fear of people.

You too should overcome fear of people in your work place if you want to be successful.

What happens when you are meek and submissive in your work place?

• When you fear your co-worker, he becomes a bully to torture you.
• When you fear your higher officials, they pile up work on you because you are too meek to say no.
• Your boss vents his frustrations and anger on you because you are not assertive.
• Your long due promotion is sidestepped and goes to your junior.
• Though you are angry, you dare not open your mouth, as you fear you will lose your job.

Can you see how your fear of people is ruining your peace in your work place?

Never allow it to happen to you. Remember that fear of people is a byproduct of your low selling yourself.

Never let this happen to you as it might destroy your mental peace in a very telling manner.

Here are the easy ways to overcome your fear of people.

• Do not give undue importance to others.
• Feel that you are equal to anyone.
• Affluence and fame does not make any person great and so you need not fear them.
• Like yourself very much.
• Think that you are a worthy person.
• Practice courage.
• Do not shy away from people.
• Have great self-esteem about yourself.
• Never bow your knees to anyone.
• Be well-groomed – a great way to project yourself as a confident person.
• Interact with assertiveness with your higher ups. You would be surprised how they do not take you for granted anymore.
• Trust your ability – others will trust it automatically.
• Never rehearse your words and answers when you are meeting famous people.
• Be normal. Don’t fidget. Look directly into the eyes. Keep your voice firm and assertive. You are not going for a military training, are you?

Such simple techniques, isn’t it?

Try it and get over your fear of people. Successful people are as human as you are. They might be blessed with all the riches the world has to offer. Their fame also might be stupendous.

But, this does not in any way make them superior to you. When you talk with them you will see that they are as human as you.

People are people whoever they are. When you feel you are equal to everyone your fear about people disappears.

 “Fear is a dark room where negatives develop” – Usman B. Asif.

It is so easy to give in to your fear and make yourself a non entity.

Do you want to be a nothing in your life?

Of course you don’t.

Shove aside your fear for people and transform into the person you dreamed of becoming.