When you face real life problems, it literally ambushes your mental peace, in a rather alarming manner, doesn’t it?
If there is one thing you want in your life, it is peace and calm. But when your life is torn apart by life problems; you hold your head in agony that you are the unluckiest person to be born in this earth. Many a time, you also feel that you are the only one to suffer in the whole world.
I too was a culprit in feeling that I was born to suffer. When my life was going through its roughest patch, my confidence and mental peace was torn to shreds. I felt that God was cruel, to have singled me out to make me suffer the worst traumas of life.
But after years of suffering, I realized that my problems were not the end of my life. It was actually, a prelude to a beginning of a new life to me. My suffering had transformed me into that much of a new person, full of confidence and hope.
You too must have experienced torturous problems, in every nook and corner of your life. Some of your life problems are mild, and do not bother you for a long time. But there are times, you face problems which throws you off balance. The intensity of your life problems, pulverizes your emotions, and shatters your will to live.
This is not the way to live your life.
You should not feel let down by your problems. You should understand, that a problem-free life does not exist for anyone. Though you might feel emotionally devastated when you face multiple problems in your life, you will emerge a new person when you overcome it. Believe me, it will be more like a rebirth to you.
You cannot avoid problems, but you can avoid being cowed down by it. You must understand that your problems are the testing phase of your life. When you do not have the guts to face your problems headlong, you will be living a meaningless existence. When you are a timid and submissive person, you will definitely drown in your problems.
The intensity you feel about your problems, depends upon the level of your mental grit to make a challenge out of it. If you are mentally weak, even daily transportation to your workplace will seem like a problem to you.
But when you are mentally strong, you will deal with even the toughest of your problems with guts. When you are a perpetual fighter, you will eventually surface as a winner, however traumatic your problems might seem to you.
When you look at the life problems you constantly face, you will understand that you have no other go than to deal with it.
Shall we now dive into the real life problems you often undergo?
No 1. Real life problems are feeling of emptiness
Today’s modern world is cruel and heartless. You lead a hectic lifestyle, with no real rest for you, mentally or physically. You are forced to be on your toes to keep in pace with others. The competition you face all around you are so tough, that you are constantly stressed and tensed.
As you are not satisfied with what you have got, you want more and more money to give you a great social status. The money you earn, does not seem good enough for you. In your race after money, you forget to nurture your relationship with your parents\spouse\children.
When you do not nurture your relationship with your family, a definite rift develops between you and your near and dear ones. Though you have lots of money, you do not feel happy, as you feel unloved and uncared. After a certain period of time, you wonder why you ran so much after money, as your loveless life makes you feel empty and lifeless.
No 2. Real life problems are love failures
Love brings incredible happiness into your life. But when your love turns out to be a failure, it also brings inconsolable sadness to you.
You are quick to fall in love, but very fast in falling out of love as well. When you are in love, you have tons of fanciful imagination that your life will be all roses and no thorns. But your euphoria is very short lived. It is because your love loses its sheen very soon.
When you lose your love, you become depressive imagining that the end of world has come for you. Love failure is not the end of your world. If you allow your mind to be shattered by your relationship failures, your life will only become a storehouse of miserable and depressing thoughts.
When you fall into depression, it would be quite impossible to pull your life out of your misery. You should have intense mental grit to handle your relationship problems. Otherwise, you might end up feeling miserable and wretched.
No 3. Real life issues are work related problems.
When you do not like your job, you will not like your life at all. It is because, you spend most of your time in your workplace. So, you can enjoy your life only when you enjoy your work. But your work only gives you constant headache, all through your life.
You have an angry boss, who is not at all satisfied with your work. You are intimidated by a bully, who ominously tramples you with his high-handed behavior. Your work load is so immense, that you constantly feel dead tired and fatigued.
These sorts of work-related problems make you feel, that your life is one big headache to you. You also realize that you cannot look for another job, just because you face multiple problems in your present workplace. Even if you get a new job, there is absolutely no assurance that you will not face such problems in your new workplace.
You should know how to handle your work-related problems, if you want to have mental peace in your job. You will be chased by the bully in your work place, only if you allow yourself to be intimidated. When your work is perfect, there is no need to fear your boss.
When you are punctual, dedicated and hard-working, your boss will surely understand that you are a crucial resource to his company. Work related problems exist everywhere. It just needs your will-power to overcome it.
No 4. Real life problems are money related problems
You might be an honest and a good person, but if you do not have money, you are treated shabbily by this modern society. Modern society is so mercenary, that it has its eyes focused on your wallet, to see whether it is full or empty.
When your pockets are full, the world turns towards you with respect. When your pockets are empty, you are ignored and rejected by this money-minded society. When there is no money, you are left all alone in this world by your own relatives\friends.
You cannot change the attitude of the world towards money. But you can change your attitude towards dealing with money. Though money is easy to earn, it is tough to hold on to it. This is the reason you must deal with your hard-earned money very carefully. You should always save your money, before spending it.
If people shut you away because you do not have money, you should know that these people mean nothing to you, and you have nothing to prove to them. If there is someone to whom you should prove yourself, it is you.
No 5. Real life problems are health issues
When your health is affected, everything is lost in your life. You will lose all your happiness, when your health is lost.
When you fall ill, your life itself becomes a question mark. Your whole world becomes dark and gloomy. Your regular visits to hospitals demoralize you. It is very easy to say that you should not lose hope. But your ailing body shatters your mental peace in a telling manner.
But you have no other go than to come out of your mental dejection, and gather all your inner strength to pull you out of your health problems.
When you are mentally fit, your positive mind easily rehabilitates your health. You hear so many stories of medical miracles. You too might be one of them.
CONCLUSION
“If you can find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.’- Frank A. Clark
You cannot hope for a problem free life, as it does not exist anywhere in this world. If at all there is one place where you will not face any problems, it will probably be your grave.
You should handle your life problems with grit, as otherwise your mental stability might be swallowed by even the tiniest of your problems. Problems always comes with a solution, but the key to solve your problems will always be with you.
Mathi Surendran is passionate in writing about relationships and life. She is also the founder of the relationship blog