Why did this happen to me?

I am sure most of you must have asked this question is some stage of your life.

Why did this happen to my friend?

“I didn’t know my evening walk was going to change my life upside down” Raji, my friend sobbed.

She had met with an accident few weeks ago.

“I was walking with my husband in a deserted road. There was absolutely no traffic. Suddenly we saw a truck coming in a distance. We thought nothing about it and continued walking. But as the truck neared us, the driver lost control over his vehicle and rammed it right into my husband, knocking him down. He died instantly. Why did this happen to me?” I watched helplessly as my friend cried her heart out.

Yes!

Life often knocks you down, when you are least expecting it.

You are shaken by the suddenness with which your life changes for the worse. And the impact it has in your life is excruciating and devastating.

• You suddenly meet with an accident.
• You suddenly become physically impaired.
• You suddenly lose your precious one.
• You suddenly lose your job leaving your life hanging in the hinges.

The suddenness with which such ordeals happen in your life leaves you shaken and completely demoralized.

Such unexpected trauma you face in your life makes you ask the inevitable question “why did this happen to me?

Life is a mystery. You never know what is in store for you in your life.

When you face problems after problems in your life, you ask yourself the question “why is this happening to me?”

It is a very natural reaction when the agony and anguish you feel completely shatters your morale into smithereens.

You had always thought that your life will be sailing along smoothly, with minor problems here and there. But, when you are faced with unexpected tragic loss in your life, you feel that you cannot be normal again.

You are depressed that you have done nothing wrong to warrant such tragedies in your life, don’t you?

Do anyone warrant the tragic events happening to them?

What wrong have the innocent people of Syria done that their life is in shambles?

Why do innocent people have to die due to earthquakes, tsunamis, hurricanes and other natural calamities?

What wrong did a physically impaired child do that he was unlucky to be born with a life challenging deficiency?

You cannot find an answer to it.

Do you know I have asked myself the question “why did this happen to me” a multiple times in my life?

My husband was a good man. He was a loving husband and a loving father. When I lost him to renal failure, my mind screamed out the question – why did this happen to me?

A question I often ask God. But even after so many years, I still do not have a reply to it.

Fifty six was not an age to die. And the sufferings of my husband in his last days did no justice to his good character.

There was yet another incident in my life which made me realize that you have no control over what is happening in your life.

My daughter who lives in America invited me to visit her. But I was hesitant because my mother was an ailing eighty seven year old. I took courage from the fact that my brother was there to look after her. I also prayed God that nothing untoward should happen to my mother in my absence.

But God did not answer my prayers. I was shattered to hear the dreadful news that she had passed away in my absence. I was unable to attend her funeral.

Why did God make me stay miles away from my mother when she was dying?

Why was I unable to be with her during her last moments?

Why was I unlucky not to have seen my mother for the final time?

Why did this to happen to me?

My brother asks me to accept it. But still I cannot.

Most of you do not deserve what is happening to you.

• You are honest, but often you are cheated by others.
• You are very humane and helpful to others. But your humanity is mocked when your life is disarrayed by an unexpected accident.
• You feel your life has become meaningless and lifeless when you lose your precious one.

When such tragedies strike you, you feel miserable about the futility of life. And you cannot but ask the question – “why did this happen to me?”

Though it might sound harsh and inhuman, you have no other go than to accept what has happened to you. Otherwise, you cannot have a moment of peace.

Most suicides occur when people cannot accept the reality of what has happened to them.

But there is a consolation.

Certain good emerges from the bad that has happened to you. You might not realize it when you are bitter about the tragedies of your life. But as your life moves on, the tragic happenings in your life transforms you into another person, so unrecognizable to your original self.

This is God’s way of remodeling your life. It is more like a rebirth to you.

I speak from my experience.

I was an ordinary Indian housewife before my husband passed away. I never knew that another world existed beyond my family.

When I lost my husband, I thought my life has ended.

But it was not so.

My life changed its course so drastically that I am no longer an ordinary home maker.

The tragic events in my life has paved path to yet another new beginning in my life. The wonderful relationship I shared with my husband has made me realize the nobility of marriage.

When I see couples throwing their marriage away for petty reasons, it saddened me. I wanted them to understand the nuances of living a good married life. I started to write about relationships with hesitancy. But I gradually learned to write with more authority.

Now, I have a blog www.breezystorm.com which has answers to many of your relationship problems. My shattered life made me understand that anything can happen in your life, without warning. I also knew that you have the power to emerge victorious from your own ashes – like a phoenix.

Today, this blog www.lifereveals.com gives you many practical tips to make your life more valuable and worthwhile.

I also have a Youtube channel which deals exclusively with relationship issues.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNrT3KOkTU5ITQMyYnVsxGQ

Now I have learned to accept what has happened to me. I have moved ahead in life, as I know there is no other option for me.

If I had wallowed in self-pity about the tragic happenings in my life, I would have never evolved into the confident person I am today.

How people handle their life challenges?

Many people face challenges life throws at them with grit and confidence. They too do not want anything untoward incidents to happen in their life.

But when the unexpected happens, they accept it. It is not an easy joke. It is indeed tough for them. But they know that life stops for no one.

My friend lost her only son in an accident. The trauma she underwent to set her life back in its tracks was a harrowing experience for her.

“Why did this happen to me? I have done nothing wrong. My son has done nothing wrong.  I feel God is cruel in taking my only son away from me” my friend was inconsolable.

I could do nothing but feel sorry for her.

I recently met her after a few years. She looked serene and calm.

“I have accepted what has happened to me. I can never be happy in my life, ever again. My happiness has gone with the death of my son. But I have to live my life. I now have an organization which helps many poor children. It has given a purpose to my life. At least I have something to live for when I help innocent children,” my friend told me.

I could only feel proud of my friend.

CONCLUSION

“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.” — Walter Anderson

Karma has a definite say in what is happening in your life. You cannot overcome it. God redesigns your life according to the reason you were born into this world. The ways of God can never be fathomed by us.

You have to accept what has been designed for you. You have to swim along the tide life takes you through.

Will you ever get an answer to why this happened to you?

Never.

It will remain an unanswered question as long as the world exists.