Most of you have tons of fears about your life, based on your imaginary assumptions, isn’t it?

And most of you also have dreamy assumptions about your life.

Both ways, it will not work.

“My heart is hammering with nervousness, aunty” David my collegemate’s son told me.

“Why so, David,? I asked the young boy.

“Today is my interview aunty. I feel all tied up whether I can answer the questions I will be asked. The place is also too far away. I am worried whether I will make it in time” David wiped his sweat with agitation.

The young boy kept assuming that he will be drilled in his interview.

“I did not get through my interview, aunty” David told me depressingly after he came home.

“Was the interview tough, David?” I asked the young boy.

“I now feel that my interview was quite easy. But I had a pre-conceived assumption that I will be asked certain questions. So, I went prepared only for those questions. But when the management asked me an entirely different type of questions, I was taken unawares. When I was answering, I was literally stammering,” David sighed, with misery written all over his face.

David failed, because he assumed he would not do well, even before he attended the interview.

Now, let us talk about Kevin, a young boy who lived near my house.

He too had to attend his first interview, but unlike David, he was calm and composed.

“I am not going to assume what the management is going to ask me, aunty. I am going to my interview with no pre-concieved thoughts. I am keeping my mind empty. I am confident that I have prepared well for the interview. I will attend my interview with an open mind. Let us see how I fare” Kevin smiled at me.

Needless to say, Kevin got selected for the job.

“I was not at all nervous because I had no pre-conceived assumption about the interview. I answered all the questions with composure. So naturally, I was selected” the young boy looked very happy.

Can you see that David and Kevin experienced the same situation?

When David assumed the worst for him, he got the worst result. Whereas, Kevin threw aside unwanted assumptions and faced the situation with equanimity and won.

Most of you have imaginary assumptions about what is going to happen in your life.

I too am no different.

Once, I had to meet a very influential person for a certain important matter. I felt apprehensive to meet the person, as I assumed that he will be on a high horse because of his high social status. I mentally prepared myself about the questions he will ask me before even going to see him.

I was literally rehearsing how I should answer that highly influential person.

When I did see that person, I was pleasantly surprised when he was not unapproachable as I assumed him to be. He was actually a simple man and he received me warmly. So much for my assumption, I thought.

Yes!

Most of you always live a life of imaginary assumptions.

Sadly, most of your assumptions are negative and pessimistic.

You often assume the worst for yourself. When you undergo emotional, financial, or other hardships, your mind becomes so clouded that you assume many negative things happening to you.

Here are some of your imaginary assumptions!

1. Imaginary assumptions in your marriage

When you marry, you assume that you are going to enjoy a “lived happily ever after life.” You assume, your spouse will be a perfect wife\husband.

Naturally, your blind assumption makes you have unrealistic dreams about your married life.

Assumptions about a perfect marriage will never materialize. Assuming that your spouse will be perfect based on your own expectations, will only make you build a false image about him\her in your mind. And your world come crashing to your feet, when your spouse is not what you assumed him or her to be.

You also assume your marriage will not work, when problems crop up between you and your spouse.

You have many imaginary assumptions in your day-to-day interaction with your spouse.

If your spouse is irritable, you assume, he\she does not like you. You do not discuss the issue with your spouse, but imagine many things about what is making your spouse irritable.

When you judge your spouse based on your imaginary assumptions, you will be time and again make your relationship all heated up.

Unless you interact with your spouse about your doubts, you can never assume what is in his\her mind.

Stop assuming about your spouse. Instead, discussing your apprehensions with your spouse would work wonders for your marriage.

2. Imaginary assumptions about success in life

When you have work related problems, you assume you can never be successful in your job.

Most of you assume the worst, as far as your profession is concerned.

When you do not get your promotion, you will always remain an abject failure in your workplace.

When your work is criticized as not perfect, you assume that you do not have the capacity to be proficient in your profession.

You should assuming imaginary doubts about your work. If you assume negative things about your work, you will be loaded with tons of needless tension and stress.

Delayed promotion, does not mean you will never get it. You might get in the next year.

Criticism about you work is not only for you. It existed for successful people also.

You can easily overcome this problem, when you update your knowledge about your work.

3. You assume you must be perfect to be in the good books of others.

You assume that you should tow the line of others to get into their good books.

In the process, you become a people pleaser. You do everything to make yourself agreeable to others.

And along the way, you lose your true identity.

Understand that you were not born to satisfy others.

You were born to lead your own satisfying life.

So, do not live your life fulfilling other people’s wishes.

4. You assume you are being watched and ridiculed

When you are in a crowd, you become self-conscious about yourself as you assume that everyone is watching you and judging you, negatively.

Understand that no one has the time to analyze you. They have their own problems to look after.

So, do not assume that you are not good enough and become self-conscious.

5. You assume your problems will continue forever

When you are undergoing hardships in your life, you assume that it is the end of your happiness and mental peace. You become pessimistic about your future, and plunge yourself into depression.

Understand, that the hardships you face in your life are actually lessons that will mold you into a person of good character and behavior.

When you have imaginary assumptions that your future will be bleak, you will sink your life into the sea of misfortune you have assumed for yourself.

6. You have imaginary assumptions that your success will always stay with you.

Another gigantic misconception you make about your life is that, your success or affluence will continue throughout your life.

When you are successful, you become arrogant and haughty. You think you are destined to be a success.

This imaginary assumption, makes you complacent and smug.

Complacency makes you desist from keeping your success in your hold, and inevitably you fail in your life.

Conclusion

“Jumping to conclusions is a dumb thing to do because it means you don’t actually consider any other possibilities. You are assuming something.” – Unknown quotes

You should avoid assumptions, if you must succeed in your life.

Your life can be easily handled when you keep your assumptions at bay. Your overconfident assumptions of continued success will be a big hurdle in your life, as you will become static and stagnant.

And your pessimistic assumption, that nothing will work for you will destroy your life.

Give only importance to your present-day priorities, so that you make your future secure and safe.

Imaginary assumptions about your life, fogs your mind. It will paralyze you into non-performance. And you will do nothing to make your life successful.

If you take your life as it comes, you will handle it properly. Do not complicate your life by assuming you will not succeed.

Your assumptions will always be imaginary. And imagination, do not often happen.