You find it tough in handling a bully in workplace, don’t you?

The bully makes the time you spend in your work highly stressful and tensed.

Who exactly is a bully?

A colleague\higher official who deliberately sets out to degrade and dominate you is a bully. He is surely a needling factor in your work place.

You feel completely bogged down by the person’s intimidation. There are also times you consider leaving your job just to avoid having to work with such a bully.

It is indeed a big turn off to co-work with a person who derives sadistic pleasure by bullying you. But you must understand that there will be one such bully wherever you work.

Intelligent tricks in handling a bully in workplace

1. Understand the mentality of a bully

The person who is prone to bullying is actually an unsure person.

The bully lacks basic self-esteem and wants to dominate others by his nerve-racking bullying.

Here is how the bully bullies you in your workplace.

• The bully back bites about you.
• He spreads lies about you.
• He consistently disrupts your work.
• If the bully is your higher official, he finds faults with you with the deliberate intention of ruining your name and peace.

So, what should you do in handling a bully?

• Never ever bow down in fear to the bullying the person indulges in.
• Do not be intimidated by the loud behavior of the bully. If you show that you are intimidated by him, your work time will turn out to be your torture time.

If you bow down to the sadistic bullying of the bully, the loser will only be you.

Understand the simple fact that the bully is an employee just like you. So, never allow the bully to overwhelm you by his fear instigating tactics.

Handling a bully in workplace needs your guts and confidence.

2. Do not fear the groupism the bully forms

The bully forms a group of his own in the workplace. You are not included in the group and naturally, you feel alienated.

Actually, the group the bully forms is a bunch of minions who feel that they might get something out of the him if he is a higher official.

You need not fear such groups.

You are in your job to prove your proficiency. So, never be bothered about groupism.

Work with confidence and do not be bothered about the groups of colleagues who do not have professional ethics.

3. Warn the bully in no uncertain terms

Make it a point to ignore the back-biting of the bully.

He is not worth your tension and stress.

When the bully persistently comes your way, you must tell him point blank that you will not tolerate his behavior.

Do not raise your voice as if you are ready for a confrontation. If you do so, the atmosphere in your workplace will turn hostile and heated.

Your voice should be firm and authoritative. And your words should be point blank and conclusive.

Firm and confident retort is one of the best way in handling a bully in workplace.

4. Understand that the bully is not confident

A work efficient person never tries to downgrade his colleagues as he knows his work ethics.

But since the bully lacks such basic professional etiquette, he finds sadistic pleasure in making you feel overwhelmed with tension and anger.

When the bully finds cruel pleasure in making you feel ill at ease, it clearly reflects on his lack of character and competency.

Your brilliance in work makes the bully feel overawed. If the bully is your higher official, he feels you are a threat to his position in the company. This is the reason he resorts to all sorts of cheap tricks to make you leave the job.

5. Become assertive

A lion\tiger likes chasing you when you run. But when you turn back and run towards the lion, it starts running away from you.

Are you wondering why?

Basically, these wild animals are chasers. But when they are chased, they do not know how to react to being chased and so they run away from you.

This is the tactic you should follow.

So, be confident in handling the bully when he consistently harasses you.

When you do so, the bully who is so used to make you feel uncomfortable recoils back unable to face your fighting spirit.

6. Higher official bullies

If the bully is your higher official, he resorts to bullying to vent his frustration and work-related stress.

The higher official might take a disliking to you if you are more productive and proficient than him. The bullying higher official feels that his position might be shaken by you when your boss consistently appreciates your work.

The higher official shows partiality to the employees who are ready to tow his line. The bullying higher official will exclude you from official meetings and discussions with the sole intention of making you feel left out.

What should you do in handling a bully who is your higher official?

You should definitely ask your bullying superior why he is behaving in a manner which is plain insulting and unreasonable.

Tell him point blank that you would take the matter to the management if he persists in his unreasonable bullying.

7. Inform the management

Do not hesitate to tell the management about the troubles your bullying colleague\higher official is causing you.

Be straightforward and truthful about your complaints.

Never add your own version to your complaint.

Do not add needless adjectives to make you look self-righteous.

If there is a ring of truth in your complaints, the management will definitely handle the problem with firmness and decisiveness.

If you delay in taking the matter to the management, your bullying superior will step in before you to give false complaints about you to them.

This is a situation you should never make it happen to you.

8. Never ever stoop to the level of the bully

Do not backbite about the bully to your colleagues. It will be repeated to the bully with more adjectives added to it.

This will create a real war like situation for you in your work place.

Just ignore the bully and go about your work as if he did not exist for you. When you ignore the bully, you take the steam right out of him. And this is enough to unnerve the bully.

What happens when you are assertive in handling the bully?

You will be astonished to see a new change in the behavior of the bully. The bully stops confronting you as he knows he cannot shake you by his bullying.

He sidetracks you so that he does not have to face you.

The bully fears you because you were daring enough to show him his place.

Conclusion

“The people who are bullying you, they’re insecure about who they are, and that’s why they’re bullying you. It never has to do with the person they are bullying. They desperately want to be love and be accepted, and they go out of their way to make people feel unaccepted so that they’re not alone” – Madelaine Petsch

When you bow down to the bully, you will be perpetually tormented and harassed.

But when you know the trick of handling a bully in workplace, you find it easy to work in peace in your job.

Yes!

Your true professional attitude, professional ethics and confidence puts the bully right in his place.